We can go through sleepless nights talking about the characteristic of a man that we would want to be in a serious relationship with, but there’s this one type that should be avoided. In fact, don’t even consider into being serious with him at first sight.
He who degrades.
He’s got a 10/10 profile, educated, stable job, rich perhaps, and a hot bod. What could go wrong? I actually experienced this myself, getting to know this kind of a man, only to be disappointed after awhile. As you all know, I have acne scars scattered on my cheeks & you can see them in my previous posts. So this particular guy texted me out of the thin air, having no direction towards my acne scars issue, he said to me “Rusty hair, acne-prone face.”
I was stunned. Ok I do know my face is problematic (the rusty hair tho, like you mean dark brown? are you colour blind?!) so why remind me again? I have lots of mirror in my house. (In fact I have 5) Haha. See this is my point guys. Imagine yourself posing in front of the mirror, tryna hype yourself up, asking the perfect guy you love, “Sweetheart, how do you think I look today?” To only be replied with, “Rusty hair, and acne-prone face.” Literally translates to go fuck yourself. Rarely did he ever compliment me. This is so negative to even begin with. Criticism is normal and should be accepted. But this is degrading. Imagine again being with a person who often degrades you, how draining it must be, your energy spent on arguments and feeling insecure all the time.
A relationship should be mutually beneficial. You bring out the best of each other. You grow mentally and physically. You slay and you never stop, the two of you conquering the world one step at a time. So my issue is that he never apologize. He didn’t even realize what he said was hurtful and just fucking rude. All I got was “I don’t give a damn.” from the motherfucker. I won’t reveal who he is but I have no shame in sharing with you all about this. I feel the need to remind you in case one of you might be in the same situation. I almost let this go, thinking how he is just so perfect as a husband one day, so maybe I should just forgive him and let it go. Take a step back now ye moron! Don’t do that. Never tolerate. You deserve someone who sees the good in you and even when he sees the bad, he will stand by your side, guiding you into being a better one.
What I am so pissed about is that he knows I spent a lot of money and time to fix my skin, and yet he criticized. He degrades. Almost 6 months spent on swallowing pills, and then buying vitamins, going for facial treatment, and I finally can see the light. Hahaha. I’m almost there guys, kicking the acne down the curb, only left with the scars. Do not ever settle for less. You may feel like you’re letting a very great man go, but you should know that you’re giving yourself a future on being with a person who will look at you and tell you how beautiful you are, every single day. Or maybe twice a week. Haha!